13 Ways Decrease Self-Worth

13 Ways to Guarantee That Your Self-Worth Stays Shoved Down in the Toilet And How to Scoop It Out Without Getting Poop on Your Hands

13 Ways Decrease Self-Worth


I certainly got an A+ in the “De-Valuing Yourself 101” class – I spent years studying and learned from some of the best (or is it worst?).

Here are 13 of the best ways I have learned to shove my Self-Worth down the toilet….and what I have learned to do instead to build my Self-Worth and show the world that I DO value myself.

  1. Your #1 priority is to focus on what others need and provide it for them – disregarding yourself.
  2. You believe that no one gets what they want out of life – especially you – it never works out for you!
    • What if… you took the time to figure out what it is that you truly want out of life. The Universe can’t help you get what you don’t define. Then you take steps (even baby steps) in that direction.  No one can stop you!
  3. You go through your days reacting to everything around youyou are not happy/fulfilled because of all the things/people/circumstances around you.
    • What if… you check-in with yourself and ask “is this helping me get to where I want to be?” (if not – you stop it and course correct!)
  4. You squash any hunches or gut feelings you have – that’s all woo-woo stuff anyway – you live in the REAL world.  And besides, everyone else knows better than you do.
    • What if… you trust your intuition – your gut – just this once to try it out.  It gets easier the more you tune in to it.
  5. You grab whatever is available to eat and mindlessly chomp it down – fast, convenient, processed food – you don’t have time to cook, let alone learn about what is in your food.  Besides, you like the way it tastes – it makes you happy – food has become a drug that dulls the pain.  Just like everyone else, the weight slowly creeps on – you believe it is normal for your body to break down as you get older – and it does.
    • What if… you treat your body like the temple to the soul that it is – a marvelous gift that allows us to experience all this world has to offer.  You know that if you treat your body well through, excellent nutrition and exercise, it will reward you with health and vitality.
  6. Indulging in some pampering that makes you feel good (ie. manicure, hair cut, massage) is not for you – maybe when you get a raise, pay off the credit card, get a gift certificate – how could you splurge on that when you NEED the money for something else?  If you DO splurge you feel guilty.
    • What if… you choose pamper yourself ‘just because’.  You know that when you do things that make you feel good, then that good flows out into the rest of your life.  You choose to spend some money on yourself because YOU ARE WORTH IT!
  7. You spend the majority of your day sitting and the evenings laying on the couch and it shows.  Your body has excess pounds on it and, well, that is just the way it is – and pass the Ben & Jerry’s please (my favorite is vanilla Heath Bar)!
    • What if… you move your body every day – start with a 10 minute walk.  Then you realize you FEEL better after getting your body moving.  Getting up and moving becomes more pleasurable than loafing and mindlessly eating empty calories (it CAN happen!).
  8. You get consumed by those nasty gremlins in your head- fear, doubt, uncertainty, all the what-if’s, should-of’s, could-of’s – it is a never-ending chorus of negativity.
    • What if… you practice being in the NOW.  When the gremlins show up, let them pass by.  They won’t come to bother you as much if you don’t feed them.
  9. When others around you are grumpy, pissed-off or just plain rude you just know it is because of you – you must have done SOMETHING to upset them.  Then you replay every word, action and glance from the last 3 weeks in your head over and over and over.
    • What if… you know that other people’s negativity, attitude or grumpiness has nothing to do with you.  In fact, they are actually thinking of YOU much, much less than you think they are. They are fighting their own battles.  Send them love.
  10. You must be going, doing, multi-tasking and accomplishing something from the minute you get up to the minute you go to sleep.  Go, go, go!  Hard work = success. No rest for the weary is your motto.
    • What if… you allow yourself to “just be” – seriously – still, quiet with NOTHING going on.  Remember? Like you may have done during summer vacations as a kid when the days seemed to last forever? And you realize that doing nothing actually helps you to accomplish more of what is truly important and meaningful to you.
  11. You beat yourself up internally – the little voice in your head criticizes you constantly – you shouldn’t have done that, said that…OMG what will they think of that? You aren’t good enough, you don’t do enough…etc.
    • What if… you are kind and gentle with yourself.  You know you are WORTH treating just as nicely as you would your loved ones (because you DO love yourself.)
  12. You complain about everything and swim in negativity (in the deep end of the pool) – everything sucks, nothing ever goes right, you expect the worst – always – there is NOTHING to be thankful for.
    • What if… You actively look for the good even if it’s just little stuff at first – a smile, a sunset, a bird singing, the close parking spot you got, breathing? You show gratitude for all things in life – even the crappy stuff because you know there is something to be learned from it and that you’ll emerge a better person – you are thankful for the lessons.  You know that gratitude is like telling the Universe…”I’d like more of that, please.”
  13. You believe that bad things always happen to you, they bring you down and then punch you with more of the same.
    • What if… you choose to believe that bad things don’t happen TO you – they happen FOR you to learn something, grow and move forward an even better person.  You are NOT a victim – you are a student of life.

What if… you chose to build your Self-Worth a bit each day?

You know you may slip into old ways from time to time, but that is ok – you just pick yourself up and move forward again.

One thing I’ve done to help myself feel good is the “4-G’s of Feeling Good” – Goin’ (moving my body every day), Greens (eating veggies), Giving (to myself and others), Gratitude (always!).  Learn more about the 4-G’s HERE.

Every step makes your world a bit brighter.

Life gets better and more good things happen for you.  It’s a very nice positive cycle to be in – join me!

Over to YOU…

What ways of de-valuing yourself would you add to the list?

What do you do to build your Self-Worth?

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